The Challenges of Parenting Today

Effective parenting today requires that the parent is fully aware of the world their children live in. Today’s world is highly technical, for one. Technology is very much part of our daily lives. You will see eight year olds with their own cell phones. Most kids spend time chatting online than watching TV. Protecting your kids from online dangers such as child pornography is a major issue in parenting today that all parents must educate themselves on.

This goal of becoming “perfect” also leads to eating disorders such as bulimia and anorexia in many teenager girls, which originates from poor self-image, insecurities and the constant message they get from media that being beautiful means being thin.

Build a strong foundation of love, respect, and self-confidence from the moment of birth so they will become well-equipped to make the right decisions on their own.

Resource: www.TerrificParenting.com

How to Help Your Kids Avoid Losing Things

If you have young children and you send them to school each day with their bags and their pencil cases, then you’ll know that kitting them out can be somewhat expensive. This is true at any rate, but if your young children constantly lose their things or break them then this cost will rise hugely and you’ll end up severely out of pocket. Unfortunately though, young children are prone to distraction and don’t quite understand the value of money in the same way that you or I do.

The good news though if your child is a little absent minded is that there are things you can do to help them keep track of their things. Here we will look at some easy tips.

Use Kid Labels

By labelling your children’s things you can prevent a range of different problems. For one you’ll prevent your children from accidentally picking up other kids’ t-shirts and jumpers which is a common problem, and at the same time you’ll prevent the other kids from taking theirs. When your children are very young and perhaps struggle to read their own name, there are a number of alternative solutions and you can get around the issue by using a small image or colour code to make their belongings more instantly recognisable.

What’s more though, is that by having a label in your children’s clothes, you’ll help teachers and other staff to identify that those items belong to them. Most of the time, when your child loses their jumper, they will just have left it on a chair at school. If a name is in it then, it can be waiting for them in their place the very next morning.

Some items of course won’t have space for material labels, but in those cases you can just as easily use a permanent marker, or a sticker to indicate what belongs to your children.

Use Handles and Chords

When selecting your child’s lunchbox or school bag, remember that they’re going to have to keep hold of these regularly and it can help a great deal if they have something to hang on to or attach it to. A lunchbox with a strap for instance can be hung on one shoulder so that your children will be less likely to put it down absent mindedly. Likewise for keys a keychain can make it literally impossible for your children to lose track of them.

Remind Them

Another thing to do is to just keep nagging. You might not want to be that parent who says ‘have you got your lunch box’ every two minutes, but if you do it enough your words will eventually echo in their heads and serve as a regular reminder. If they are old enough to have a phone you can also occasionally send a text or make a call to remind them when there’s anything important they need to remember.

Of course you can also just help them to develop their memory – and games like pairs can help speed this process up. (Terrific Parenting)

Dealing With Questions: Constructing the Bases of a Child’s Personality

A “question” is among the most important elements of human communication. Through questions; people interact, transfer knowledge and arrive at common perceptions. Questions play a fundamental role in the process of requesting information and exchanging them.

This equally applies to children and adolescents. However, it is essential to mention that this process also represents a platform for learning, verifying and rooting information, in addition to forming a child’s belief system, his self-image and his perception of others. This can be most effectively done when parents and children are engaged in a regular exchange of questions, as this process contributes to the establishment of various concepts in the minds and hearts of the children. This is not to be mistaken for a simple process of exchanging information, but rather, a practice that plants trust, boosts personalities and enhances relationships.

As parents, it is important to focus on questions put forward by children. Further, it is critical that parents address them taking into consideration the child’s age and level of maturity. Parents should avoid lying to children and proceeding with misconceptions. It is also important not to undervalue questions posed by a child even if they were successive or childish as welcoming questions regarding all matters even those that seem trivial will encourage children to seek advice from their parents when faced with challenges, dangers or abusive relations.

Parents who underestimate questions posed by their children or allocate less than sufficient time to motivate them to seek answers from them, in fact; unknowingly endanger their children. These questions and curiosities will not fade away; rather, they will drive children to seek others to answer them. Often, a child will choose a friend or seek company on the Internet to fulfill this need; both are rapid but risky sources of answers. There is a substantial risk that the answer will be incorrect, harmful, or one that sends faulty messages to the child.

The way in which parents direct questions to their children is equally important,children often pose questions to acquire certain information. However, the drives and motives behind posing a question and the alternate ways in which parents can put it are often not as simple. It is vital to understand that the motive behind asking a question and the way the parents choose to present it will affect the learning acquired by children and the strength of their future relationship with their parents. At times, parents mean to communicate a specific point but due to the communication inefficiencies, children receive a completely different message.